Q.) Bhagavan, why is it that children have to suffer because of parents actions? In such situation what should the children do?
SRI BHAGAVAN: “So you must remember that the parent was also once a child only. So he was traumatized by his parents. So this goes on from generation to generation. It could have happened to your great grand father, from him to your grand father, then your father, then to yourself. It gets transfers like that, that kind of behaviour, that kind of attitude, then it goes on. Ultimately if you probe deeply nobody is responsible, because whatever you are it is because of the kind of things which happened during pregnancy for you.
Basically it starts with what thoughts your parents had before conception during the act of conception and what happened in the womb which we call the four baskets and what were your mother’s thoughts when you were in the womb, what were your father’s thoughts, then as you were being delivered, what was your response to the delivery, and then after delivery what happened, what comments they made all that is registered in your unconscious which we can go back and see. So these are the things which are controlling you. So you have no freedom, your father does not have freedom, nobody has got freedom. There is no free will at all. But we have the illusion of free will therefore enjoy it. You think you are free, enjoy it. But the truth is you are not free. But You can’t do anything about it. That’s all there is to life. But if you understand it, you will get some freedom and it is possible to change some things. That is we can change the script. Of course it must be done in a process. But otherwise we are controlled by this program. So, but if you realize we have been controlled, there is no choice because you know you have been controlled. Where there is no choice, Surrender. Where there is surrender what do you have? You have freedom. If you truly realise there is no free will there is total freedom, it’s a paradox, opposite.
If you think you have a free will then you think, O.K I should do this, I should do that, you are confused. Suppose you go to a supermarket and you find number of soaps there, you are confused which soap to buy. All the things you have seen on the television, its going on pulling you this way, that way that way. Therefore there is no freedom at all for you, it’s a struggle. But suppose you have seen only one soap and that soap alone is there, is there any problem? So this is the problem with people. Don’t forget this-
“Where there is choice, there is no freedom”
“Where there is no choice there is freedom”
And no choice means you realize there is no free will. Just flowing, life is. You did not choose where you are born. You did not choose your job as you imagine. The program made you do all those things. If you realize this you are a free person, you are liberated, you are a muktha.