“In spirituality, the moment you realize there is nothing you could do about it, that is the beginning of all spiritual growth. As long as you keep trying you will never ever get there because that trying is the problem.
That trying is the thing which takes you away from where you want to be. You have to realize the futility of all effort in the inner world. All effort on the spiritual path is futile. If you could realize that, it could hit you like a ton of bricks and then all effort ceases. The moment effort is gone, there is love, and there is peace. But as long as you keep struggling you keep putting in some effort you will move further away.
If you want to discover love and you put in some effort, you will move further away from love. If you want peace and you put in some effort, you would move further away from peace because that very effort is the disturbance, the noise.”
~ SRI BHAGAVAN